Rapid Ejaculation Top Tips!
Premature Ejaculation Treatment Tips & Tricks
So here's some extremely good news for
all you premature ejaculators out there!
If you didn't already know, you're not alone.
About one third of the adult male population come faster than they would like during sex, so I want you to know first of all there's no reason to be ashamed of the problem. And I know saying that doesn't help you at all!
But here's the thing - you can do something about premature ejaculation more easily than you know.
So why do I say that?
Well, for one reason there are some exciting new control techniques available which I'm going to talk about in a minute. But before I do that I just want to make a few other points.
You see, the thing is that when we talk about premature ejaculation, more often than not we avoid talking about how it makes us feel. But this is extremely important.
So a man comes too soon during sex, knows he's come prematurely, and he feels ashamed or angry or sad, or feels like a failure.
Then he gets anxious about coming too soon the next time he has sex -- and as you may already know, when you feel anxious about ejaculating prematurely, that's exactly what tends to happen.
So where in all of this do we ever think about what the woman might be feeling?
You see, men talk about premature ejaculation in a way that suggests they should feel bad because they've let their partner down. In other words they know women want long-lasting intercourse, and it would be preferable if they could give it to them. That much is obvious.
But did you ever think about what your partner might be feeling? No? Let me help.
Where a woman is let down by a man because he ejaculates too soon during sex, she's likely to feel a couple of things.
First of all she's going to feel abandoned, because she's in an intimate situation with the man she loves (OK, maybe), and she values the intimacy with him more than anything else.
But then suddenly in the midst of this intimate connection, he ejaculates, he loses interest in sex, and that's it ... sex is over for the moment.
So she'll feel let down, which basically means she'll feel disappointed, and possibly angry.
But then what I know about premature ejaculation is that most guys don't actually do anything about it, so the next time they have sex it's likely to happen again. And the time after that. And the time after that ... well, you get the idea.
If this goes on for long enough the woman is going to feel is increasing levels of frustration first, and anger second.
Eventually she can get so irritated by the fact that her man doesn't appear to care about his prematurity that her anger starts getting in the way of you and her having a good relationship.
But what does having a good relationship mean? Well, for one thing it means having sex (good or otherwise). It certainly means you take the trouble to bring her to orgasm before you come.
And if you do that, and then enjoy your own orgasm during intercourse, what more could you need in the way of sexual satisfaction?
Quite a lot, in fact. You see, it's the woman who controls the frequency of sex in a relationship.
So what better reasons could there be for dealing with premature ejaculation than the facts that (1) you're not only letting your woman down, (2) you can feel angry and disappointed, and (3) eventually she might even refuse you sex.
even if she doesn't refuse you sex, she's not going to be taking part in
So what are you going to do about this?
The first thing is this: get a treatment
program that works. As it happens, there's one available here (have a look on the
right hand column of the page).
You can also pick up some very valuable and helpful tips from the Internet which can make all the difference to your ability to last longer during intercourse.
And where are you going to pick those tips up ? Yes, from this very website. What a coincidence.
Tips To Control Your Rapid Climax
Here's Tip Number One. First of all, you've got to pay attention to how aroused you are.
It's absolutely no use trying to distract yourself with thoughts of basketball, road tax, or your granny having sex.
And that's not such a nice thought. Why would you?
The reason DISTRACTION doesn't work is because when you distract yourself from what you're doing, you have even less idea of how aroused you are, and even less control over how quickly you come.
(You get that? The point is that unless you're aware of how aroused you are, how near the point of no return you are, and how far you are from the moment you pop, you're not going to have any chance of controlling it. Simple, yes?)
So distracting yourself takes your thoughts away from what you need to be focusing on. Now, you might think that focusing on how aroused you are is just going to speed up your premature ejaculation even more.
But you'd be wrong, because focusing on
your level of arousal gives you more control in the long run.
Tip Number Two. Focus on what's happening in your body, instead of trying to ignore it. Now once again, you might think that focusing on all the erotic senses and delectable feelings you're experiencing, and the lovely sensations you're feeling, will make you come faster. Well it isn't.
The truth is that the more you focus on your arousal the more you'll get used to experiencing sexy stuff, and the better you'll be able to tolerate it.
I know that's quite a radical thought, but if you think about it you might see how much sense it makes in the long term - especially if you're serious about stopping premature ejaculation.
There is another reason to focus on what's happening in your
body as well, instead of trying to distract yourself. That's
because if you distract yourself too efficiently, you're going
lose your erection. Big deal.
Tip Number Three. Don't try contracting your pubococcygeus muscle to control ejaculation.
This is the hoariest old chestnut on the Internet. The idea is that by squeezing your PC muscle at the moment of ejaculation, you can stop yourself coming prematurely and so delay popping as long as you want. Well, it's absolute garbage.
The truth is if you try to squeeze your PC muscle hard enough to prevent yourself coming, you'll simply ruin your ejaculation, which dribbles out, instead of spurting, and you lose a lot of feeling.
The truth is, bizarrely, that when this muscle contracts it actually can take you over the edge.... you see where I'm going with this? No?
Well here we go: what you have to do is learn to relax
your PC muscle. By relaxing it you slow down your increase
Tip Number Four. Use the stop-start technique to get greater control. First of all use it during masturbation, when you have a certain amount of control over what you're doing, and you can choose to stop yourself ejaculating by stopping stimulation.
Do this using a well lubricated hand so that it feels like you're actually inside a woman. Sort of. Bring yourself to the point of ejaculation several times in quick succession, pausing before you ejaculate, and making sure that you extend your session of masturbation for as long as possible.
This is a good way of gaining tolerance for sexually exciting stimulation.
It helps you last longer in bed. It really does help you overcome premature ejaculation.
Then, what you do next?
You have to translate that into the next most arousing thing - which is having your partner masturbate you to the point of ejaculation and then stopping (before you spurt!).
She repeats this several times (or "he" does - depending on your choice of partner). And again the object is to get greater control. You will feel when you're in control using this process, so it's not necessary for me to explain that bit to you.
And then finally, as you might already have guessed, the next step is to transfer the art of ejaculatory control using "gradual stimulation" (I just made that name up for this technique; other people call it the "stop start technique").
Now this is a bit more difficult, because as soon as you are inside a woman you will feel that urge to thrust and ejaculate.
But knowing what a powerful man you are, with the firm and clear intention to get greater ejaculatory control, I know you're going to be able to do this.
And so what you do every time you reach the point of no return (that's why you need to pay attention to the sensations in your body) is to stop doing whatever it is you're doing and lie still inside her until the desire to ejaculate has passed.
Yes, you do have to be aware of how near the point of no return you are before you get there. As I said before, that's why you need to be paying attention to what's going on in your body.
And you'll find if you stop moving and lie still that you will manage -- at least some of the time -- to prevent yourself ejaculating.
The point here is that practice makes perfect, and
while you may have
to practice this several times in succession during each
session of lovemaking, the good news is that your reward is
just a thrust away. I mean, you can spurt into her after three or four cycles
of stopping and starting.
How long does it take to get greater control? Good question! That depends on how determined you are, how uncontrolled your premature ejaculation is right now, and how much effort you put into the process.
come to think of it, I suppose it also depends on how willing
your partner is to go through this process with you. That's because
you don't have any hope of doing it without her. So why not be
very sweet and charming to her for a while?
Tip Number Five. Now here's something really radical. This is a vaginal acclimatization, and it should be something you enjoy.
Far from going into her and trying to thrust and maintain control, just penetrate and don't do anything.
Now because you're a horny bloke with premature ejaculation I'm assuming you'll be able to do this... I mean, you'll be able to use the technique so in the end you have greater control.
The idea is you go into her and you lie still.
Man on top sex position's a problem here, since she's going to expire before you do. Side-by-side sex positions are pretty good; so is sitting on a chair with her in your lap.
Whatever, you need to find a sex position where you can lie still with her, perhaps chatting idly about the size of her breasts or the color of her eyes, while you keep your erection and stay hard inside her.
(You won't have to do much to keep your erection, maybe just move a little bit every now and then.)
What happens if you keep this up for long enough is this: there's going to be a point where the sensations you're feeling suddenly change.
Instead of being aroused and excited, and instead of your penis tingling like it normally does when it's inside her, what you're going to find is that the sensations become something like a "dull warmth".
It's hard to explain, but you'll know when it happens.
The good news, or the bad news, depending on how you look at this, is that this change can take anything from 10 to 30 minutes. But it's worth it!
And the reason it's worthwhile is because when you've experienced it, you'll have a greater capacity to be inside a woman without ejaculating uncontrollably.
You see, simply being in her vagina for a while, resting easy, and getting used to the sensation of your cock inside her pussy, will make the experience much less stimulating to your brain, your body, and every other part of you.
And when it's less exciting to you, and the level of nervous excitement and sexual stimulation you get from simply being inside her has decreased, you'll be in a much better position to maintain control.